Ahh… Dating. It might come natural to some and less natural to others (like me!). But either way, it’s a lot harder now that you’re out of school and in your early 20s. There aren’t boys and girls traipsing around you 24/7 like in college. You actually have to go searching for these so-called, “single people” in the online world of Tinder and Match.com and the off-line world of REAL LIFE!
Everyone, quick! Look out your window. Not your browser window… you know, the one with the paned glass. That window. There’s a whole world out there outside of OK Cupid and Farmers Only where you can find the man or woman who meets or exceeds your goals. “Meets or exceeds your goals,” may sound less cliche than normal, but in reality you’re not likely to meet the man or woman of your dreams. Fortunately, with my unqualified advice, you can get pretty close to that dream babe. I know I did!
My first summer out of college was a lot of fun. I joined a community of great and funny people and had a ball all summer long. My advice to you – find a group of friends that you don’t feel awkward with and will introduce you to people who you could see yourself dating. You might even end up dating one of the people in your group.
Pro-tip: Dating someone in my group of friends wasn’t such a bad thing, but I definitely don’t talk or hang out with this person as much as I used to. This happens a lot with heterosexual people, but I hear that it’s less of an issue in the gay community. I’m not sure if that last statement has any truth to it, but either way, you’ve been warned!
For men and women alike, I suggest dating a lot of different people. This will help you not only get used to the dating scene in your city but you’ll also find out what you like and don’t like in a person you would like to date long-term.
If you find that the single life suits you better, like I said before, “Do you.” Just remember, if you want to start dating, you have to get yourself out there. Research things to do in your city, join a community or group and learn to be outgoing (drinking can help, but be cautious). These are only some of the things you can do to meet new people and start dating.
Now for asking someone on a date. The scariest part of the whole shebang! Honestly, all I can say is that if you feel like you’re grooving with someone on another level than friendship, you should take the plunge. What’s the worst that could happen? You’re not going to die if they say, “No.” Ask them!
If it’s a first date, just going out for drinks is a great choice and one that can be super casual and non-committal. It’s an easy-going date and one where you’ll both get to talk a lot and get to know each other. After that, you can talk about a second date to a cool new restaurant around town or if either of you just aren’t feeling it, you can leave it at that.
And that, my friends, is some advice on how to date in your 20s.
Comment below if you have any questions. I have loads of advice I could share, I just don’t know what you want! Tell me what you want! Or tell me a story of your dating adventures. I would love to hear your triumphs and sorrows. Leave it below!